Thursday 23 April 2015

Who are you hanging with?

In this month of Spring Cleaning for Change, we need to search every area of our lives.

Do you like to be where the action is....the limelight that is? Walking the red carpet of 'attention seeking behaviour' hoping others will see what you do, rather than who you are.

Who needs your support?

Doing good really feels great and is great! A spring clean of the heart.

In the Bible, Jesus sought out Prostitutes, Tax-Collectors, Samaritans, ignorant Fishermen, the sick (Lepers), Women, the demon-possessed, in fact anyone who was shunned or actively rejected by religious leaders.

Let's clean ourselves out by 'hanging out' with the right crowd.
Do you know anyone who is sick, either at home or in hospital? How about a person who needs someone to talk to? Someone with a listening ear rather than a 'Judge & Jury'.

Who in your family has been rejected?  Who at work has been left on the side lines of life, spiralling down under the pressure of loneliness?

Are you a giver or a taker?

Look around....are your people, like your people? in other words, friends who are similar to you. It's all comfortable, no real challenge.

Who are you hanging out with?

If you're a taker, find some givers. If you're a giver, find a taker.  Creating different kinds of friendships cleans out the dross of poor judgements, prejudices, pride, selfishness, ignorance, lack of faith, intolerance and lack of Love.

Warning: If you hang with haters (nasty to you or others), RUN!
Run as fast as you can away, far away. You deserve better.

Who are you hanging with?



I describe............................You decide!




Friday 17 April 2015

Spring Clean Too - What's missing in your life?

Have a look around, a careful look.....what's missing?

I believe.....Life is what you make it.

So, what is missing in your life?


Laughter? Make yourself laugh. You know what puts a smile on your face. You don't need to wait for anyone else to do it for you. What makes you laugh out loud? Just do it yourself.  Think 'funny', think smile, laugh until it hits your belly. It feels good, really good. Give it a go! What's missing in your life?

Quiet? Create a time and space for yourself. Try 60 seconds, then 5 mins, 10 mins, 15 mins until you have the time you need to be quiet. Be still and know......what's missing in your life?

Friends - Too many? Gain more time by letting go. Release the friends you really don't need to see any more. Too few? Look for the lost. Be friendly and you will get more friends. Really! Whose missing in your life?

Freshness? Do something 'new'. Something, you have not done before. Try a cold shower - that's fresh! Revisit an idea you had as a child. Do it now. Nervous, take baby steps toward your idea or strategically leap in wisdom. That will get you fresh quickly! Don't die with regrets - get fresh. What's missing in your life?

Money? Think about your money in new way!  money issues can push you to be financially sound.   Think about it. Learn how to manage your money...it's not natural (except to those it comes naturally to, of course). Ask a friend (they must be a good money manager) or search for tips and bits online. Whats missing in your life?

Provocation? A little bit of hate does wonders for your confidence. Knock it....No! I mean, build you up. If you let it, hate can motivate you to be better, do better, to really love yourself. No one else can love you, like you can. A big bit of love does wonders too for your confidence. Can you receive love? Are you able to give love..no conditions, simply love from the heart? Provoke yourself to be your best self and provoke others to love too. What's missing in your life?

Spouse? Look around..there are so many beautiful people who are full of love around the world...don't limit yourself, don't get desperate...get new friends, a new life and a new level of love, not sex! Don't make a list for someone else...make a list for yourself. What's missing in your life?

Children - Are you really ready for that level of commitment, responsibility and stability? Whether you are male or female, try fostering first....that's a good start. Don't start a relationship you cannot sustain. Love is important. Care is essential. Bottom line..don't come as you are. Come better than you are. Children need it. What's missing in your life?

Jesus? Get a copy of the Bible and start reading! Proverbs is a good place to start..it's the book of wisdom. What's missing in your life?

I describe............You decide! What's missing?

Wednesday 8 April 2015

Spring Clean for Change

Spring is finally here again and it feels great! A time of change...newness, freshness, greenness, cleanliness.

Spring Cleaning is defined as 'a thorough cleaning of a house or room, typically undertaken in Spring..' (Google dictionary)

Spring is a great time to consider spring cleaning ourselves. 

A Spring Clean for Change;
  • Our Appearance
  • How we Think
  • Our Behaviour
  • How we Speak
  • Our Attire
  • What we do


We may not need to spring clean every area but we should check just in case we do. You never know where the cobwebs or dust could be building up. Check everywhere.

What do you need for your Spring clean?
 A new wardrobe. Exercise. A new eating program. Advice. Support. Left alone to meditate. To pray. New learning material. To sleep more. Positive thinking

When will you start?
Now is a good time as any..'start as you mean to go on'. Select a specific date.

Does everything need cleaning?
What are you thinking right now? Do you need to renew your mind daily (Bible - Romans 12:2). Do you need to detox?

Do you still use it?
Maybe a skill you've learnt many years ago. Certain words. The leather watch. Those winter boots. What others think of you?

Do you need to let it go?
The false beliefs about yourself. Worrying. Too much work. Being too friendly. Being too serious. Unbelief.

Do you need to replace or upgrade it?
Your mattress for a better night's sleep. Your spectacles or contact lenses. Your health regimen. Your lifestyle.

Or do you need to make space by decluttering?
Memories that you should have left in the past long ago and move forward. Friends who are no longer friends but familiar people taking up a lot of time.

Spring Clean for change before change cleans you out!


I describe........................You decide!

Wednesday 1 April 2015

Wake up...You are a giant!


This is a speech I gave a few years ago. It still seems appropriate today.

  1. Wake up! Wake up! No snoozing.
  2. Who are you? Why are you here?
  3. Who are you really, deep on the inside?
  4. If you are here, alive today......You are a giant!
  5. Giant (in case you're not sure) is a person of outstanding size or srength; a person of outstanding importance or achievement.
  6. The Giant versus A Giant - You are 'the' giant, specifically and uniquely YOU!
  7. Wake up......what is inside you that was dormant until now?
  8. You know it's there. You know it's BIG!
  9. Like me....were you afraid...of yourself, your power, your love?
  10. You are not a giant built to kill others but a giant to live, to love, to give and to protect!
Wake up! Can you smell the coffee?

Based on the bible story of David & Goliath;
Goliath looked like a giant, sounded like a giant.  He had a big voice but was he a giant inside?
David looked little, looked crazy, sounded crazy..'taking on a giant, really? BUT, he was the giant inside! "I will kill you and take off your head".  He did it, just as he promised he would.

Welcome giants!
I feel sorry for the unprepared who will meet you from this moment on!


I describe.............You decide.