Monday, 29 October 2012

Shaken....out of your Comfort Zone?

Let me start by saying I think we have more than one 'Comfort Zone'. It could be the physical space we call 'home' or the daily one we call 'work'. It could be those special friends we call 'best'. It may be our long term partner or spouse. It may be our family members immediate or extended. it could be our health which has always been great, nothing to worry about it. Are you 'fit as a fiddle'? (what does that question really mean, we are not fiddles??)

"What about our finances" I hear some say. "Hey, De Skribe, we have something put aside for a rainy day..."

Great! but one day you wake up...what is it? ..the ground beneath you begins moving... a Earthquake!
I mean, you've now lost all your money; you've developed an illness; you lose a family member, someone close to you; your partner is gone 'left the building', 'left a note'; that 'best' friend is no longer 'best' but 'worst!; or you've been made pay..God Forbid!

The a situation you didn't see coming. You know, those events in life that literally shake us from the inside, out. We can see it in the faces of some,..those people we see sleeping on the streets, in the shadows curled up in a blanket or a collection of newspapers...or those with a transparent gaze filled with illegal substamces...or some legal ones too. and those who have placed their mind or heart (in some cases both) in a wooden box for 'safe keeping'.

Is there a way to survive 'the Shake' successfully? I believe there is....

Firstly, to acknowledge there has been a 'Shake'. Identify it, if it has not been identified. What is it? Why do i get angry? Why do I walk away? Why do I......?

Secondly, look at the impact....."I am hurt, I feel let down or betrayed, I am devasated, I could have done better, I blame someone else...I blame myself....why?"

Thirdly, feel it...allow yourself to fully experience, what you are experiencing because that's what makes us REAL, GENUINE! TRUE! Don't delude yourself or others.

Finally, talk about it..when YOU are ready to. It may be uncomfortable at first but the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the great counsellors around you, who have been 'shaken' out of a zone themselves, willing to share positively, are worth the journey from 'Comfort Zone' to beyond the 'Shake'.

How do you kknow this De Skribe?
I know this because I been shaken, a landslide 'Shake' child passed away not so long ago. I believe I will always carry a scar which covers a deep, deep, deep wound but by the grace of God....the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the counsel of good people that i have already experienced, is immense. (There are some really great people out there folks and some great family members too)

Are you in a Comfort Zone?...... Don't take it for granted.

Shaken.....? YOU can survice it, successfully. So, be careful out there!

I describe...YOU decide.

Tuesday, 16 October 2012

Ugly Duckling or Swan - do you need to make a move?

Have you ever felt 'different' or seen someone who looked 'odd one out'?

In the story of the 'Ugly Duckling', a family of ducks became quickly aware that one of them looked different...uglier than all the others.
C'mon we all know that walk into a room and you feel uncomfortable, you look different or sound different in other are different!
What do you do? How do you adjust.....Can you fit in?

The 'Ugly Duckling' could not fit in with it's family. It was different...there was no changing that!!

Is your difference something you can change?
YES!..well, do you want to change? Do you know how to? If you're not sure, why not add a question or comment could get some great ideas? But, be sure you want to change....or
NO!.. you're unable to change your difference, then why not embrace it? Maybe you need to change your group,your job or your environment?

Are you a the wrong place at the wrong time? or Are you in the right place but 'leader of the pack'?...Which is why you're different.....beautiful? LOOK around you....maybe your 'type' is in another group...close by.

As the 'Ugly Duckling' grew, it became a beautiful realised it was a Swan, when it saw the other swans and it's own reflection in the water.  Maybe, you don't fit in because you haven't realised.....the group you're in is not YOUR group...Have you looked in the water? Can you see your image? MOVE!!!!

If a swan lives with ducks or a duck lives with swans, both appear really ugly or really beautiful! You will either have 'haters' or 'admirers'....most of us have both.....but are we in the right place for us?

At first, you may feel ugly and stay in the background.... but as you grow and understand will realise Ugly Duckling or Swan....If you are in the right place for you...YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A SWAN = BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME!

Changed position? - tell me about it....Need to change?....ask me about it?....So Move!

Monday, 1 October 2012

What is Normal?

Is there such a thing or state as normal? Is your normal the same as everyone else's normal?

A female having a child at 10 years old or at 60 years old, which is normal?

Are these examples what you recognise as normal behaviour?
A man and woman in love or Two men in love,
A woman who does not want children or a man with four wives,
Someone who wants to kill or someone who wants to save lives,
Men wearing trousers or women wearing trousers,
Women wearing skirts or men wearing skirts,
A child running a business
A child married to an adult,
A man circumcised or a woman circumcised,

To eat worms, to eat cows, to eat flies, to eat fish, to eat ants, to eat snakes, to eat snails,
To eat alligators, to eat kangaroos, to eat eggs, to eat grass, to eat nothing!

To drink Alcohol, to drink milk, to drink water, to drink blood!

Is this really normal behaviour?

Having sex before marriage, having sex in marriage, having sex outside of marriage - what is normal.....?

Wives and husbands divorcing, children divorcing this normal where you are?

What is normal in one country is not normal in another,,,, in fact it could be illegal? Ok, let's come closer to home. What have you done today...was it normal?
Is it normal because everyone agrees it is normal or because no one challenges you on it? Is it normal because it is what is expected of you?
Are you normal? Is what you do normal? What is normal?