Monday, 31 December 2012

A Chain of Events.....Endings

The end of the year upon us (in the UK) in a few minutes time.

How will it end..?

How has it ended for you?
Every year i always come across people who say that the year, regardless of it's number was terrible and they are glad it's over! Some say it went quickly and they cannot believe it's gone!!!

Here in the UK, many will be sad to see it go because it was so exciting with the Queen's Diamond Jubilee and the 2012 Olympic & Paralympic Games.

There are many who are happy it is the last day of the year and look forward to making plans so their next year is better......really?? Have they achieved it previously???

The year will be ending as it started with a day of 24 hours...some of it daytime and some of it night......because of it's number many of us behave differently but let's get is just another day! Now don't get me wrong,,,,I love the holiday season and all it's celebrations but we can sometimes make a drama out of the ordinary!

I feel we should celebrate every day or whatever days we would like....some people have not lived to see today or may not see tomorrow.... Let's not take it for granted, let's not waste it, let's end it well.

Celebrate our achievements! we all had waking up in the morning, having a sound mind, having a roof over our heads, having family, having water to drink or food to eat...having a friend,,,,,having a pet! In fact, if you can read can be thankful for that..the ability to read, use a computer, to understand, to think, to see, to walk away.

I think this year was a long as the previous year and as short as the previous year. Next year will be the same, whether i get there or not!

The greatest thing about the New Year is that it is a blank canvas which we can use whichever way we want...YES, there is always a choice....

Let's end this one well..........and meet on the other side of the day in 2013.....come follow me... I describe, YOU decide!!!

Congratulations...YOU HAVE MADE IT!

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Ten Life Less-ons

1. Less on Others
More on YOU

2. Less on Hate
More on Love

3. Less on Isolation
More on Conversation

4. Less on Taking
More on Giving

5. Less on Dis-empower
More on Empowering

6. Less on Money
More on Wealth of Character

7. Less on Complaining
More on Complimenting

8. Less on Imitating
More on Reality (but not TV)

9. Less on Confusion
More on Focussing

10.Less on Disappointments
More on Appointments

Ten Life Less-ons just for YOU!

I describe....YOU decide!

Tuesday, 13 November 2012

I believe in YOU!

Yes, I believe in YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU exist.......I believe YOU can read.

I believe YOU have worth....YOU are alive, YOU are valuable and have values.

I believe YOU were intrigued by the title of this blog...

Yes, I believe in YOU...........Do YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU are love and are lovable and can love. Do YOU love? Do YOU show love?

I believe YOU are great! YOU were great before YOU were born....that swim to the egg proved YOU are a success....a tremendous success...Are YOU living a successful life?

I believe YOU are unique..there is no one like YOU anywhere in the there? No, there is no one like YOU (not even a twin, triplet etc). On many occasions YOU will think differently....are YOU strange or unique? i believe YOU are unique......different in fact! Can YOU handle it or do YOU hide it?

I believe YOU are creative.....everyone has created something, a thought, a word, a pause, a smile, an item, a behaviour, a relationship, an enemy, a moment of silence, a picture etc. I believe in YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU have experienced pain.....but YOU survived it....YOU endured it..YOU can talk about it, if YOU want to.

I also believe YOU have hurt someone, whether you know it or not. I believe in YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU can laugh and make others laugh or at least smile...Do YOU smile? Do YOU laugh?

I believe YOU can do anything YOU put your mind to...positively. Are YOU living your best life?

Yes, I believe in you believe in YOU?

Think about it....I describe...YOU decide!

Monday, 29 October 2012

Shaken....out of your Comfort Zone?

Let me start by saying I think we have more than one 'Comfort Zone'. It could be the physical space we call 'home' or the daily one we call 'work'. It could be those special friends we call 'best'. It may be our long term partner or spouse. It may be our family members immediate or extended. it could be our health which has always been great, nothing to worry about it. Are you 'fit as a fiddle'? (what does that question really mean, we are not fiddles??)

"What about our finances" I hear some say. "Hey, De Skribe, we have something put aside for a rainy day..."

Great! but one day you wake up...what is it? ..the ground beneath you begins moving... a Earthquake!
I mean, you've now lost all your money; you've developed an illness; you lose a family member, someone close to you; your partner is gone 'left the building', 'left a note'; that 'best' friend is no longer 'best' but 'worst!; or you've been made pay..God Forbid!

The a situation you didn't see coming. You know, those events in life that literally shake us from the inside, out. We can see it in the faces of some,..those people we see sleeping on the streets, in the shadows curled up in a blanket or a collection of newspapers...or those with a transparent gaze filled with illegal substamces...or some legal ones too. and those who have placed their mind or heart (in some cases both) in a wooden box for 'safe keeping'.

Is there a way to survive 'the Shake' successfully? I believe there is....

Firstly, to acknowledge there has been a 'Shake'. Identify it, if it has not been identified. What is it? Why do i get angry? Why do I walk away? Why do I......?

Secondly, look at the impact....."I am hurt, I feel let down or betrayed, I am devasated, I could have done better, I blame someone else...I blame myself....why?"

Thirdly, feel it...allow yourself to fully experience, what you are experiencing because that's what makes us REAL, GENUINE! TRUE! Don't delude yourself or others.

Finally, talk about it..when YOU are ready to. It may be uncomfortable at first but the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the great counsellors around you, who have been 'shaken' out of a zone themselves, willing to share positively, are worth the journey from 'Comfort Zone' to beyond the 'Shake'.

How do you kknow this De Skribe?
I know this because I been shaken, a landslide 'Shake' child passed away not so long ago. I believe I will always carry a scar which covers a deep, deep, deep wound but by the grace of God....the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the counsel of good people that i have already experienced, is immense. (There are some really great people out there folks and some great family members too)

Are you in a Comfort Zone?...... Don't take it for granted.

Shaken.....? YOU can survice it, successfully. So, be careful out there!

I describe...YOU decide.

Tuesday, 16 October 2012

Ugly Duckling or Swan - do you need to make a move?

Have you ever felt 'different' or seen someone who looked 'odd one out'?

In the story of the 'Ugly Duckling', a family of ducks became quickly aware that one of them looked different...uglier than all the others.
C'mon we all know that walk into a room and you feel uncomfortable, you look different or sound different in other are different!
What do you do? How do you adjust.....Can you fit in?

The 'Ugly Duckling' could not fit in with it's family. It was different...there was no changing that!!

Is your difference something you can change?
YES!..well, do you want to change? Do you know how to? If you're not sure, why not add a question or comment could get some great ideas? But, be sure you want to change....or
NO!.. you're unable to change your difference, then why not embrace it? Maybe you need to change your group,your job or your environment?

Are you a the wrong place at the wrong time? or Are you in the right place but 'leader of the pack'?...Which is why you're different.....beautiful? LOOK around you....maybe your 'type' is in another group...close by.

As the 'Ugly Duckling' grew, it became a beautiful realised it was a Swan, when it saw the other swans and it's own reflection in the water.  Maybe, you don't fit in because you haven't realised.....the group you're in is not YOUR group...Have you looked in the water? Can you see your image? MOVE!!!!

If a swan lives with ducks or a duck lives with swans, both appear really ugly or really beautiful! You will either have 'haters' or 'admirers'....most of us have both.....but are we in the right place for us?

At first, you may feel ugly and stay in the background.... but as you grow and understand will realise Ugly Duckling or Swan....If you are in the right place for you...YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A SWAN = BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME!

Changed position? - tell me about it....Need to change?....ask me about it?....So Move!

Monday, 1 October 2012

What is Normal?

Is there such a thing or state as normal? Is your normal the same as everyone else's normal?

A female having a child at 10 years old or at 60 years old, which is normal?

Are these examples what you recognise as normal behaviour?
A man and woman in love or Two men in love,
A woman who does not want children or a man with four wives,
Someone who wants to kill or someone who wants to save lives,
Men wearing trousers or women wearing trousers,
Women wearing skirts or men wearing skirts,
A child running a business
A child married to an adult,
A man circumcised or a woman circumcised,

To eat worms, to eat cows, to eat flies, to eat fish, to eat ants, to eat snakes, to eat snails,
To eat alligators, to eat kangaroos, to eat eggs, to eat grass, to eat nothing!

To drink Alcohol, to drink milk, to drink water, to drink blood!

Is this really normal behaviour?

Having sex before marriage, having sex in marriage, having sex outside of marriage - what is normal.....?

Wives and husbands divorcing, children divorcing this normal where you are?

What is normal in one country is not normal in another,,,, in fact it could be illegal? Ok, let's come closer to home. What have you done today...was it normal?
Is it normal because everyone agrees it is normal or because no one challenges you on it? Is it normal because it is what is expected of you?
Are you normal? Is what you do normal? What is normal?

Monday, 17 September 2012

Who are you...................really?

Who are you?  Do you know? or is it possible you only think you know?
When asked 'Who are you?, we normally respond by giving our name or explaining what we do or we may give a selection of characteristics.....some of us may answer with a question 'What do you mean, who am I, in what sense?' But, whatever the answer, is it really who we are?

Most of us have names we have been given either at birth or in marriage. There are a few unique inidviduals who have chosen their own that is being who they are...great! inspiring! but given or taken what does our name say about us?
What does YOUR name mean? Do you know? Do you care?
Who ARE you?

Why do you live where you live and how do you live? is it your preference? Did you decide or did someone make the decision for you? were you really FREE to choose? were you influenced by finances or 'keeping up with the Joneses' or possibly even swayed by the Media?
I believe most of the time we allow familiarity to lead us. We react to family traits by doing the same or the exact opposite to what we are used to. How many of us are doing 'differently', real difference not a compare or contrast just completely different and new? Are we utilising our own preference, uninfluenced by others? If we live with someone, to freely agree to choose an option together, is having our preference. if togetherness is our preference 'of course'. If not, well 'you need to talk'.
Who are you....REALLY?

What are you wearing? How many of us are wearing what we have to or at least that is what we think or feel we have to do in the Office, Factory, Farm, Ship, Hospital or wherever we work? Sometimes, we have specialist clothing we are required to wear but what about other times outside the work environment e.g. socially? Are we being ourselves or are we being someone else?
Are you, what you are wearing? Do you match your appearance? WHO are you?

How do you describe yourself? Kind, funny, cool, handsome, pretty, fat, thin, loud, shy, young, old, 'the life of the party', 'the wallflower', smooth, a flirt, quiet?
Are the words we use our words or the words of others? Are we really funny or isit what others have said about us and we accept it, embrace it, live it?
Do YOU agree with your own description of yourself?

We need to know who we are to truly explore and discover our own preferences. No more suppression, passivity or hiding. Are YOU hiding?
As a child, I always felt my favourite colour was 'Blue'. Later in life I realised that there were many colours in the world, far beyond the colour palette we are given. So, is Blue my favourite colour!
The more I understand about myself, the more empowered I have become. All the words given to me in life do not belong to me. Some belong to my family, some to friends, some to associates, some even to strangers. I need to know myself well enough to tell these words apart!
Sounds easy......? well I encourage you all to look at your preferences again, and again. The simplest things in life seem to be the most challenging to accomplish loving ourselves and loving others.
In life the seasons change and so do we. Find yourself and keep embracing the real 'YOU', even as you change. Make your own prefereces. Use your own words to describe 'YOU'. Select clothes to dress 'YOU'. Use your own creativity where you work, where you live and in all that 'YOU' do.
So, Who are you ......really?