One mouth is really enough!

What we allow to come out of our mouths could get us into problems.

'Sticks and stones will break my bones but words can never harm me...'*
What!....Who wrote that?

Have you ever said something that you regret? Sometimes our words can cause distress, sometimes we over-promise or break a promise. Sometimes, we may say something which has a devastating effect for someone else.

Jeph was having a hard time. He was not a popular guy. He worked with colleagues who really did not like him but they needed his help to deal with a problem. They recognised he was the right man to lead them to success, so reluctantly they asked him to help.

It was a really big problem, so Jeph felt he needed a bit of help, as he did not want to flop with his colleagues right behind him. He said a little prayer promising that if he was successful, he would sacrifice the first thing that came out of his house.
Why would someone say that?

Well...I'm sure you can imagine what happened next, yes! he was successful. He was so very happy. Everyone was happy!

Ever had a great day at work? You have clearly won and your 'haters' can see your victory. How happy would you be?

Jeph arrived home. Someone was running out to greet him.......The first person out the door, dancing with joy, was his only daughter. Her dad was back, safe and sound. Dad was her hero. Jeph tore at his clothes. He fell to the ground.

What would you do? what would you say?

Jeph explained what he had done...he had made a wild, rash promise to guarantee his success.

One mouth is really enough for each of us.

If there is anything you need to apologise for...why not apologise?

Words can hurt but they can also lift. We all know it, we may expect it but do we express it to those around us?

What can you do today, to lift yourself? Who can you encourage unconditionally?

Jeph surprisingly with his daughters agreement, fulfilled his promise. They had lived in Biblical times (Judges 11) but what a lesson to learn!

Let's all watch what we say. It may not be as damning as Jeph's story but it might hurt just as much!

We have two eyes, two ears but I think 'One mouth is really more than enough'.


I describe.......You decide.



*An old Nursery Rhyme - author unknown.

Are you the One?

It only takes one of us to stand up for good,
It only takes one of us to stand up for love
It only takes one of us to jump for joy.
It only takes one of us to start a smile revolution.
It only takes one of us to seek peace.
It only takes one of us to stay humble.
It only takes one of us to 'get it together'....fix our life.
It only takes one of us to speak truth.

It only takes one to create.
It only takes one to get up!
It only takes one to give; to share.
It only takes one...

Richard Branson is one,
Steve Jobs was one
Oprah is one
Simon Cowell is one
Maya Angelou was one
Gandhi was one
Vivienne Westwood is one
Nelson Mandela was one
Mother Theresa was one
Jesus Christ is one

Am I one?
Are you one?

Look around...are you moving?

It only takes one!

A Chain of Events........Let us begin well.

Happy New Year to you all...it is 2013!

We've got 365 days to choose how we will use them.

Some of us have plans set for this year and the following number of years. Some of us have no plans and are not sure what will happen next.
(Well actually, none of us really knows what will happen next but we all hope for the best.....plans or no plans!)


How well did your the previous 365 days go? Did you have a plan?


I don't believe in good luck or bad luck BUT I believe in life with it's interuptions, lessons and trials that come to test or to stretch us, sometimes even to stop us......Chains of events that pull out our potential or our short comings giving us the opportunity to change, developing into someone better than we were in the previous slice of time - the old chains, the old year.

So, Let us begin well.

'Well' is whatever YOU decide is 'well'.

Now, we all know that it may make others unhappy when we make a decision. We cannot control how others feel about it but I would like to add, we should aim to do well without having to harm anyone else.

What is really great (i think), is when we can make a decision which not only benefits us but others too.

I would like to suggest creating a 'chain of events'.
Instead of thinking of resolutions or goals (which is the end game)and not achieve them.... why not create the chain of events that will lead to the resolution or goal being achieved at the earliest possible point. As my Mentor recently quoted 'with a chain of events, each stage is mapped out, so even if life interupts the flow for a moment, you can pick up from where you left off, no matter how big or long the moment'.

For example:
1. I want to write a blog for the New Year but also for the Old Year.
What do i do?
2. My blog will be called 'endings and beginnings'. I want to DeSkribe how well we end and begin a year.
I had planned to write and publish it on 31st December 2012.
3. The time i wish to write the blog crosses the New Year celebrations (a minor interruption).
What should i do?
4. Why not, Split my blog in two...? the portion on endings publish in 2012 and the portion on beginnings in 2013.
The links of the chain remain in the same order...write a blog; edit the blog; publish the blog; only the dates the actions take place now differ, some have been split in two.

Yes, it is a simple method but some of the simplest things in life always seem the most challenging to complete well (or is that just me?)

Just be sure that YOUR chain of events results in the resolution or goal that you were aiming for. Get someone to be your personal accountant (nothing to do with finances of course) to check with you from time to time, to ensure you are following your chain successfully.

We know these things but it is the doing that makes them empowering. All bloggers have plans (no doubt) but it is how we apply these simple methods everywhere else in our lives, thet reflects real success and empowerment.


Let us begin well and in doing so, end well.

Do you have a method for beginning well? Why, not share it with us?

I describe,,,,you decide!

A Chain of Events.....Endings

The end of the year 2012..is upon us (in the UK) in a few minutes time.

How will it end..?

How has it ended for you?
Every year i always come across people who say that the year, regardless of it's number was terrible and they are glad it's over! Some say it went quickly and they cannot believe it's gone!!!

Here in the UK, many will be sad to see it go because it was so exciting with the Queen's Diamond Jubilee and the 2012 Olympic & Paralympic Games.

There are many who are happy it is the last day of the year and look forward to making plans so their next year is better......really?? Have they achieved it previously???

The year will be ending as it started with a day of 24 hours...some of it daytime and some of it night......because of it's number many of us behave differently but let's get real..it is just another day! Now don't get me wrong,,,,I love the holiday season and all it's celebrations but we can sometimes make a drama out of the ordinary!

I feel we should celebrate every day or whatever days we would like....some people have not lived to see today or may not see tomorrow.... Let's not take it for granted, let's not waste it, let's end it well.

Celebrate our achievements! we all had some..like waking up in the morning, having a sound mind, having a roof over our heads, having family, having water to drink or food to eat...having a friend,,,,,having a pet! In fact, if you can read this...you can be thankful for that..the ability to read, use a computer, to understand, to think, to see, to walk away.

I think this year was a long as the previous year and as short as the previous year. Next year will be the same, whether i get there or not!

The greatest thing about the New Year is that it is a blank canvas which we can use whichever way we want...YES, there is always a choice....

Let's end this one well..........and meet on the other side of the day in 2013.....come follow me... I describe, YOU decide!!!

Congratulations...YOU HAVE MADE IT!

Ten Life Less-ons

1. Less on Others
More on YOU

2. Less on Hate
More on Love

3. Less on Isolation
More on Conversation

4. Less on Taking
More on Giving

5. Less on Dis-empower
More on Empowering

6. Less on Money
More on Wealth of Character

7. Less on Complaining
More on Complimenting

8. Less on Imitating
More on Reality (but not TV)

9. Less on Confusion
More on Focussing

10.Less on Disappointments
More on Appointments

Ten Life Less-ons just for YOU!


I describe....YOU decide!

I believe in YOU!

Yes, I believe in YOU.....do YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU exist.......I believe YOU can read.

I believe YOU have worth....YOU are alive, YOU are valuable and have values.

I believe YOU were intrigued by the title of this blog...



Yes, I believe in YOU...........Do YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU are love and are lovable and can love. Do YOU love? Do YOU show love?

I believe YOU are great! YOU were great before YOU were born....that swim to the egg proved YOU are a success....a tremendous success...Are YOU living a successful life?

I believe YOU are unique..there is no one like YOU anywhere in the world...is there? No, there is no one like YOU (not even a twin, triplet etc). On many occasions YOU will think differently....are YOU strange or unique? i believe YOU are unique......different in fact! Can YOU handle it or do YOU hide it?

I believe YOU are creative.....everyone has created something, a thought, a word, a pause, a smile, an item, a behaviour, a relationship, an enemy, a moment of silence, a picture etc. I believe in YOU.......do YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU have experienced pain.....but YOU survived it....YOU endured it..YOU can talk about it, if YOU want to.

I also believe YOU have hurt someone, whether you know it or not. I believe in YOU.....do YOU believe in YOU?

I believe YOU can laugh and make others laugh or at least smile...Do YOU smile? Do YOU laugh?

I believe YOU can do anything YOU put your mind to...positively. Are YOU living your best life?


Yes, I believe in YOU.....do you believe in YOU?


Think about it....I describe...YOU decide!

Shaken....out of your Comfort Zone?

Let me start by saying I think we have more than one 'Comfort Zone'. It could be the physical space we call 'home' or the daily one we call 'work'. It could be those special friends we call 'best'. It may be our long term partner or spouse. It may be our family members immediate or extended. it could be our health which has always been great, nothing to worry about it. Are you 'fit as a fiddle'? (what does that question really mean, we are not fiddles??)

"What about our finances" I hear some say. "Hey, De Skribe, we have something put aside for a rainy day..."

Great! but one day you wake up...what is it? ..the ground beneath you begins moving... a Shake.....an Earthquake!
I mean, you've now lost all your money; you've developed an illness; you lose a family member, someone close to you; your partner is gone 'left the building', 'left a note'; that 'best' friend is no longer 'best' but 'worst!; or you've been made redundant..no work..no pay..God Forbid!

The Shake...is a situation you didn't see coming. You know, those events in life that literally shake us from the inside, out. We can see it in the faces of some,..those people we see sleeping on the streets, in the shadows curled up in a blanket or a collection of newspapers...or those with a transparent gaze filled with illegal substamces...or some legal ones too. and those who have placed their mind or heart (in some cases both) in a wooden box for 'safe keeping'.

Is there a way to survive 'the Shake' successfully? I believe there is....

Firstly, to acknowledge there has been a 'Shake'. Identify it, if it has not been identified. What is it? Why do i get angry? Why do I walk away? Why do I......?

Secondly, look at the impact....."I am hurt, I feel let down or betrayed, I am devasated, I could have done better, I blame someone else...I blame myself....why?"

Thirdly, feel it...allow yourself to fully experience, what you are experiencing because that's what makes us REAL, GENUINE! TRUE! Don't delude yourself or others.

Finally, talk about it..when YOU are ready to. It may be uncomfortable at first but the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the great counsellors around you, who have been 'shaken' out of a zone themselves, willing to share positively, are worth the journey from 'Comfort Zone' to beyond the 'Shake'.

How do you kknow this De Skribe?
I know this because I been shaken, a landslide 'Shake'.....my child passed away not so long ago. I believe I will always carry a scar which covers a deep, deep, deep wound but by the grace of God....the growth, peace, healing, rebuilding and the counsel of good people that i have already experienced, is immense. (There are some really great people out there folks and some great family members too)

Are you in a Comfort Zone?...... Don't take it for granted.

Shaken.....? YOU can survice it, successfully. So, be careful out there!

I describe...YOU decide.